Behind the Scenes

It’s been so long since I posted on this blog that I almost forgot my username and password! Yup, in the world of blogging I fail.

But if you are reading these posts, know that the planning is going ahead. The happy couple have been focusing over the last few months on finding a venue for their Fall 2010 wedding. It’s proven difficult to find something though. Most of the great venues are already booked – especially for Saturday evenings. We’ve discovered that some good contenders are just too expensive when you factor in alcohol. (And I don’t know about anyone else but I doubt that a mickey can fit into my purse). I will write about venues more. Definitely.

Once we have a venue, and a date, we can start the other elements: invitations, wedding website, decor, oh my!

One thing that the Bride has been able to decide on without the venue is her dress! Exciting. After visiting a few bridal boutiques, she has found the one. She will be going back to the boutique with her parents and cousin this weekend to try it on again, and hopefully order it.

So be sure to check this space often. Better subscribe via a reader. There are more details to come.

~ The Bridesmaid


March 12, 2010 at 6:31 pm Leave a comment

OMG – Top Secret Announcement from Kleinfeld

This just in! Kleinfeld, our fav bridal boutique from TLC’s Say Yes To The Dress is expected to make an announcement at Canada’s Wedding Expo this Saturday, January 16. What could it be? Maybe an extension to the already wonderful Kleinfeld Experience contest that they are running right now. Check it out for a chance to win a $5,000 Kleinfeld gift certificate, free airfare and accommodations in NYC, a private store opening and personal styling with the one and only Randy Fenoli!! Wooo weee. 🙂

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~ The Bridesmaid

January 14, 2010 at 10:42 pm Leave a comment

Shows Just May Blow

This weekend the Bride, Mother of the Bride, two other Bridesmaids, and I are going to Canada’s Bridal Show. Despite the incredibly terrible commercials and dated website, this is apparently one of the bigger shows and the one to go to… I don’t know who decides these things.

I have already warned the Bride about the wine that I will be carrying in my aluminum water bottle. I warned that I will be tweeting the event – because some things are left said through online sarcasm. Oh and if I win a diamond ring, new car or condo, I’m keeping it. I am not above wearing a diamond engagement ring that I won from a bridal show even though I’m not married. It may hinder my dating life, but ah well.

I can guarantee that all five of us at this event – Bridesmaids, Bride and Mother of the Bride – will bring it’s own level of entertainment.

So watch this space. I’ll let you know how it was. And if you don’t hear from me, know that the last thing I did was go to a Bridal Show. That deserves a seat in heaven.

~ The Bridesmaid

January 8, 2010 at 6:19 am Leave a comment

The Look

I’m new to the whole wedding planning process. Yes, I have been a Bridesmaid before. Yes, I have been to many a wedding. Yes, I have watched virtually all of the available wedding shows on specialty television. While I often argue that those things make me more than qualified to have strong wedding opinions, I’m not married. I have not had to plan my own wedding.

Being a bridesmaid in my friend’s upcoming wedding though, I get to watch the wedding planning design process evolve from the very beginning. Being a backseat driver is exciting stuff. Since I have started this blog, I have been browsing around on the many wedding blogs out there. There are so many talented people in the wedding business – from planners, to photographers, to invitation designers, to pastry chefs, and the list goes on. It has been so much fun to look at the beautiful ideas.

Today, I discovered the artistic beauty that is INSPIRATION BOARDS! Writing this post was the only thing that broke me from browsing though more and more of those creative collages. Not only can you get ideas for color combinations, but some fun ways to inject color into your wedding.

And to make it even easier for the busy bride and bridesmaid, there’s a Flickr group dedicated to Wedding and Event Inspiration Boards. Here are a few of my favorites.

Purple and Green by simplywilkinson

Vintage Yellow and Grey by Elizabeth Anne Designs

Aqua and Pink by ashleydernick

Check out some Inspiration Boards if your bride is still undecided on the colour theme and feel. Maybe you and the bridal party can create an Inspiration Board of your own. It’s a great tool.

~ The Bridesmaid

December 30, 2009 at 7:20 pm Leave a comment

Someone is Getting a Ring… Right Now

The Holidays are a very popular time of year for proposals. Between Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years, the magic of the first snow fall, the family gatherings, and the copious amount of alcohol, a lot of Grooms-to-be are finding the perfect time to pop the question. Or they’ve gotten a hold of some liquid courage. Either way. Right now some love-sick putz is down on one knee.

We need to be aware of these things – proposals I mean. More proposals, mean more weddings, which mean more Bridesmaids. We have a vested interest.

I personally feel that our job as members of the bridal party begins before there is a wedding in sight. We are the female correspondents to the groom-to-be. When there are rings to purchase, proposals to organize, we have to step up to the plate. So do your friends (potential Brides and Grooms) a favor and get your acts together Bridesmaids. According to some site that I found while browsing the web – 85% of women stated they were “disappointed” in the way they were proposed to. Ay Carumba!

Something needs to be done to curb that statistic. Before the proposal pull the Groom aside and remind him know that you know the Bride very well and if he needs any help, he can give you a call. Then found out what the Bride wants – her dream ring and proposal. Chances are she has already thought about it. Offer to help. If he’s the proposal blimp over the ballgame kinda guy and she would hate it, don’t be afraid to tell him why you don’t think that would work. Offer up some suggestions.

Even as a woman who is not married, I have heard my share of proposal stories. Some were clear train wrecks from the start, and others were memorable. Reading this post, you probably know of a few yourself. If not, there are some a ton of proposal ideas floating around. From a ring waiting on the Christmas tree, or packaged in a successively smaller layer of boxes, to “will you marry me” written in the snow.

And this season when your friend becomes engaged, know that you did you part to make it magical and memorable. A job well done for Grooms and Bridesmaids everywhere.

~ The Bridesmaid

December 29, 2009 at 4:46 am Leave a comment

Shows Don’t Blow

This time last year, The Bride sent me an email about an upcoming wedding show in Toronto. A few of her girlfriends were invited to come along for fun. Although none of which were engaged, it would be a hoot to go to the show. I said a resounding “Thanks but no thanks.” Because really, a wedding show?! Do I really want to subject myself to that kind of high-pitched, clawing at your eyeballs, death by flower wire kind of torture. I was busy. I was washing my hair. For the entire weekend.

When I received today’s email about upcoming wedding shows, I knew that I had to suck it up. My BFF is now engaged and incredibly excited. So am I. Therefore come January I will be going to the shows. There’s a good chance that I’ll have some red wine in my aluminum water bottle, but I’ll be there.

So far the show contenders (as per the email) are: The Wedding Co. Show, Canada’s Bridal Show, The Total Wedding Show. Since I know nothing about them, I decided to search for bridal show tips instead. The articles are aplenty and have more useless points then my ADD brain can handle. I won’t bother linking to them. But through my scanning I did pick up on a couple of bridal show tips worth sharing.

5 Tips to Help You Get Through A Bridal Show (Sober or Not):

  1. Take a Camera! Genius. Something tells me that I won’t remember the height/width ratio of that flower arrangement that everyone fell in love with. How will I know if the wedding fashion show dress was more majestic than the one at the bridal boutique.
  2. Return Address Labels! If these bridal shows are anything like other trade shows, there’s a ton of draws to enter for free stuff. Who doesn’t like free stuff?! But lazy people like me can’t stand there filling in the information AGAIN while our carpel tunnel is acting up. Just print up some labels with your name, address, email (maybe even the wedding date) beforehand and you’re good to go. Bring a few business card size versions if you can too.
  3. Avoid the Spam! Who doesn’t hate spam email or junk mail. Related to #2, if you are going to fill out a lot of contests for your wedding consider setting up another wedding only email address and/or PO box. That way after the wedding you can cancel your PO box and close your email account. Voila no more junk. Reserve your main e-mail address for vendors you actually work with.
  4. The Black Sharpie! Yes all of the online tips that I read said bring a pen and notebook. Great. I say also bring a Sharpie. You’ll definitely be taking a lot of brochures and other literature. Write a note with your Sharpie on the vendor’s brochure what impressed you, what you want to follow-up with. It will make for an easier time the day after. I love that.
  5. Double Bag It! Have the Bride carry one bag and the Bridesmaid (that’s me) carry another. Put literature for vendors that you want to follow-up with in the Bride bag and all others in the Bridesmaid bag. While I’ll probably be lugging around a huge bag of crap, it will be easier to sort through after the event.

And if you’re at the show and see me, say hi. I’ll be the one in the dark sunglasses and wine stained lips, standing beside a highly enthusiastic bride. Holla.

~ The Bridesmaid

December 21, 2009 at 5:55 am 1 comment

It’s Not Official…

It’s not official until you change your Facebook status and announce to all of your friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances, and random people that you mistakenly accepted as friends that you are in fact Engaged. When I woke up this morning – the night after my closest friend’s boyfriend proposed – that’s what I had to tell her. Just wait until you change your Facebook!!! So far I was one of only three people who knew. I saw the ring. I knew that he was gonna do the deed. I got the confirming hysterical phone call in the wee hours of the night. But it still wasn’t for public consumption. It wasn’t on Facebook.

In the meantime, I set up a blog.

As a Bridesmaid I will have a unique perspective that needs to be documented. (Yeah I think it was decided that I would be involved in this intimate affair a while ago. They have been together for five years!) Only a Bridesmaid could give you a inside look at the ups and downs, highs and lows, laughter and terror of the wedding planning process, from a safe distance away.

I’ll be a passenger on the road to wedding day bliss. With a great view of the scenery and the protection of side airbags.

So hoop on board and enjoy the ride. This is something that you will want to see!

~ The Bridesmaid

December 20, 2009 at 4:41 am Leave a comment


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